C.S. Lewis on being "In Love"

"Being in Love is a good thing, but it is not the best thing. There are many things below it, but there are also things above it. You cannot make it the basis of a whole life. It is a noble feeling, but it is still a feeling. Now no feeling can be relied on to last in its full intensity, or even to last at all. Knowledege can last, Principals can last, habits can last; but feelings come and go. In fact, whatever people say, the state called 'being in love' usually does not last. If the old fairy tale ending ' they lived happily ever after' is taken to mean 'they felt for the next fifty years exactly as they felt the day that they were married', then it says what probably never was, nor ever would be true, and would be highly undesirable if it were. Who could bear to live in that excitement for even five years? What would become of your work, your appetite, your sleep, your friendships? But of course, ceasing to be "in love" need not mean ceasing to love...love is distinct from being "in love"-it's not merely a feeling...it is having this love for eachother even at those moments when they do not like eachother. This queiter love enables them to keep the promises they made. Make quite sure you are judging by what you really know from your own experiences and from watching the lives of your friends, and not by ideas you have derived from novels or films"~C.S. Lewis~

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